Ted Cruz announced his presidential candidacy yesterday and it brought out tons of opinions on social media. A lot of it centered around whether Cruz’ religious beliefs, and prior statements regarding homosexuality were hurting his chance at residing in the White House. Before I begin, let me own up to some shit first. I make bad analogies. I do. All the time. About everything. And they are often offensive. So, with that admission out there, here I go:
I am pretty tired of hearing that trite phrase that goes along the lines of “hate the sin, not the sinner” or its first cousin “love the sinner, not the sin”. Truly, I am over it. Totally. As a 40 year old, I can stomach that shit however. As a 19 year old, it hurt. Hell, as a 35 year old it did. But, when I turned 40, I was sober, and my skin thickened exponentially, my give a damn busted, and I decided to no longer let it hurt. Now, it pisses me off. To me, it’s like saying that you like me/love me only because you’re obligated to because of some two thousand year old moral code. Your religion maintains that you must love me personally while despising one of the things that define me. And yes, our sexuality does partially define all of us. Our relationships with our husbands/wives/boyfriends/girlfriends/friends with benefits et. al, define who we are as a human being. These relationships, as with our platonic relationships, and how we conduct them partially define our person. So, to say that you love me, but hate my sin, is essentially kicking part of me in the gut and spitting on one side of my face.
Akin to that little phrase is also this gem: I am not homophobic, I just don’t believe in gay marriage. Tell me once again how that is not a homophobic opinion. Change a few words, step back a few decades, OR NOT, and you can pull up this oft-used one: I’m not a racist, because my daughter/son is not dating a black woman/man. – I ain’t racist, but the school system went to shit after desegregation.- I’m not trying to sound racist, but they’re all on food stamps but have big ass TVs. The two notions sound frighteningly similar to me. However, like I said, it no longer hurts me because I flatly refuse to allow it to cause me anything but pure disgust and anger.
But, we are all entitled to our own thoughts, opinions, and perceptions. It’s one of the many great things about our country. The founding fathers, who were clearly smarter than any of us could ever dream of being, set us up for success. They framed our Constitution in such a way that it can be amended to fit our society, and the needs of our society. The document was not chiseled in stone for a reason. It doesn’t reference God, Jesus, the Bible, Christianity, or any other such religious theme, and it’s worded in fairly basic terms. Even a dummy can get it. Which, considering present circumstances, is a good thing.
It has been said that one’s perception is their reality. What I perceive in my mind, is my reality. Hearing people say the kind of things referenced above, strikes me in my guts, and pisses me off to no end. Depending on who says it, I’d be lying to say it doesn’t still sting a bit, just not the way it used to. I’ll never allow it to hurt that badly again. Maybe Ted Cruz is not a bit homophobic. Maybe he’s misunderstood. But, if the perception is that he is a homophobic, religious zealot, then his chances of moving to 1600 are somewhat altered.
Watch what you say and how you say it. Especially if you may run for President. Dummy.